The Struggles of being in an Interracial Relationship

How many people do you personally know who are in an interracial relationship? One, two maybe three? Well, you might not think that an interracial relationship is completely different from dating someone who is of the same race as you, but it is.

I personally don’t know of anyone who’s had a successful interracial marriage, but that doesn’t stop me from admiring those strangers who have made it work.

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Here are some daily interracial relationship struggles:

  1.  A family doesn’t accept you. You or you’re significant other are not accepted by the other’s family because of race or religion possibly both. There’s no way around it most of the time, parents are usually stuck in their ways and don’t want to accept new traditions. Unfortunately, that’s the story for my boyfriend and my parents.
  2. No dream wedding. Why? Well it’s because religions, customs, and traditions are so different it’s usually all or nothing unless you are willing to compromise, but then the family gets involved and then a small issue escalates to a large issue. I feel like both parties aren’t fully satisfied in the end.
  3. No friends in interracial relationships. Having friends listen to your problems and arguments is great, but it would help if they were also in the same situation or they have already overcome it. The advice would be more relevant and it’s always nice to have support from someone who has gone through the same obstacles.
  4. Children. Deciding how to raise your children will be extremely difficult with trying to include all cultures equally and deciding on religions. There will be hoops to jump through and unless either of you is already two ethnicities or more you won’t completely understand what your child is going through in their childhood with how they relate to each culture.

These are struggles that have come up in conversation in my own relationship. It involves a lot of open communication and compromise on how to tackle each issue. It’s not the end of the world. If you love someone and they treat you the way you deserve then you should do everything in your power to make it work, because getting through the struggles together makes your relationship that much stronger. I’m not saying you won’t have a dream wedding, but you’ll definitely have to make some changes that might have never crossed your mind before.

If you enjoyed reading about this topic be sure to check out my previous post on interracial relationships, where I open up about my own relationship. You can also read about my friend’s interracial relationship here. 

What has been the toughest obstacle in your relationship?

What do you think is the greater struggle out of the four?

2 thoughts on “The Struggles of being in an Interracial Relationship

  1. Great post! I think the main one for me would be children. Sometimes it’s difficult when two people have two different ideas on how to bring up their children.

    1. I agree, it’s definitely hard when people have two different ideas on how to raise their children and bring them up. I think it’s still manageable of course it’s just going to involve a lot of communication.

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