What I Wish I Knew Before Moving In With My Boyfriend


Last year my boyfriend and I moved in together and we thought it was going to be amazing and it has been, but I wish I knew a few things beforehand. Finding an apartment together was tough because we weren’t able to look together in most places since we were in a long distance relationship. That being said our move-in process was delayed a little, however, everything ended up working out and I like how we ended up at our little home.

Someone will ALWAYS feel like they are doing more for the other person and doing more in the relationship overall. I’ve read in articles in the past that’s it’s normal and it comes with being a young people in their twenties. It’s also a big step for the relationship so things change and emotions get stronger. Try and realize what your partner is doing and being more considerate when they do help you out with little gestures and maintaining your home together.

Sacrifices begin to happen more often if they haven’t already. You learn that you won’t always get your way and neither will your partner. You’ll come to terms with doing things for them because seeing that you made them happy makes you happy and vice versa. You’ll also learn that getting what you want all the time isn’t healthy for a relationship, but working together and compromising is.

There will be times where your place is a mess and it’s because you won’t keep up with the chores you both agreed too when you both first moved in. A schedule gets created and things happen, you’re going to college or work and when you get home you just want to relax so you put off your chores another week. Until one day a month or so later you finally deep clean your home and feel better. Don’t stress about it, try to get one or two chores done a day so you don’t start fighting about it. In the end, as long as it gets done, does it really matter who was supposed to do it? As long as you both end up working together to clean your home, it shouldn’t matter. Don’t waste your time on little things, focus on spending time together and being together because the time will FLY by!!!

Paying bills together is great and feels so grown up except when you decide you want to buy stuff and then start worrying about your bills. Don’t stress about money, just always try to stay on your feet by looking for jobs and having at least one job. I know it’s easier said than done, but as long as you’re trying something should come your way. Sometimes it means taking a job you don’t want but need for that specific time period. Just remember it’s okay to take a job you think you shouldn’t have to take and think of how you’re on your own now and YOU ARE PAYING FOR YOUR OWN THINGS. That’s an amazing accomplishment and think of something you like about your job. There’s always one thing you like at your job and it might be better than you think!

Stealing Food is a serious issue and I’m warning you about your significant other right now because they will try to eat your snacks and meals when you aren’t home. Hide your snacks because it’s not a matter of if it’ll happen but when it’ll happen.

The biggest thing you’ll get out of living with your partner is you’ll both grow together. Your bond will grow stronger and you’ll love each other more which you didn’t think was possible. You’ll be growing up together and working together. It’s a great stage to be in when you’re in a relationship because you’ll appreciate all the time you have with one another and see how you’ve each grown as a person and as a couple.

Good luck to you and your significant other!

Which lesson did you like the most?

16 thoughts on “What I Wish I Knew Before Moving In With My Boyfriend

  1. Me and my boyfriend are moving in together next year sometime and as excited as I am I’m still wary about this stuff. I stay at his all the time and sometimes we struggle to compromise but I know that once we work through it we will be stronger than ever. Also thank you for saying that it is normal feel like you’re putting more effort into a relationship than the other person because sometimes I find that really affects me but thought I was just being self absorbed. I can’t wait for us to grow together and become closer and stronger🧡 what a lovely post x
    Alex x

    1. Aww thank you so much! Yeah, I used to think it was all in my head or that my boyfriend didn’t appreciate what I did for him. When in fact we both felt that way, we just have to take a step back and see how much the other person is doing for us and if they don’t see it then help them see what we’re doing for them and how they can help us. Thank yous go a long way. You’ll grow stronger before you know and be so much happier because you’re with each other way more! Glad you enjoyed the post! 💕💕

      1. It made me feel more relieved about the experience and made it exciting. If I’m honest I do need to compromise more and learn when to just let things go, so hopefully I can work on that before we move in!🧡

        1. Trust me when I say I’ve been there and I’m still working on myself to let things go faster! It’s so much easier to just focus on the big picture than small little things that’ll irritate you for no reason. Let it go and be happy with your boyfriend. It’s very exciting I’ll be sure to write more about this topic! This was so sweet 😭😭😭

          1. Yeah please do because there is so much negativity in the world that a piece of positivity goes a long way. I also appreciate that you managed to make these things that may be slightly irritating into positive ways of thinking about it. It’s all about personal growth and we’ll get there and it’ll be totally worth it!🧡

          2. Yess we will get there, it’s all a process. I know I’m not where I want to be, but I’m a lot closer than I was last year! Thank you so much you have no idea how much your opinion means to me! I’ll definitely start posting more about relationships! 💜

  2. This was such a good post! Everything you mentioned is so true. I lived with my boyfriend for two years and it was a lot of work! You truly learn about each other in the most intimate way possible. I think another important tip is to make time for yourself and give yourself some space once in a while. Being around each other all the time can be overwhelming and it’s good to find an activity or something you can do that gives you some alone time. I picked up ice skating and found myself going to the gym a lot just to get some alone time. Not saying that my boyfriend was a horrible roommate or anything! But it was important to have the space. Great post 🙂

    1. Thank you so much! That’s so true, finding a hobby to have your own time, “me time” is very important. I tend to blog in my free time and do crafts besides working out or reading! Thank you for sharing your own experience, glad mine was relatable. 😊

  3. Yes to the hiding snacks part, but I do feel bad about it. So I’ve just left it out and decided to suck it up. My bigger issue is actually on the opposite side of that! He buys too many snacks or food on sale. That doesn’t sound like a bad thing until I point out that a lot of food goes to waste (/waist haha) because we end up throwing it out or I ended up being forced to eat it so it doesn’t end up spoiling.

    1. Hiding snacks is a light issue, but I agree buying food on sale if it goes to waste sucks. My boyfriend and I have been trying to cook more at home to get more out of our money. Maybe try to buy more preservatives?

    1. I agree it’s when you find out the most about them and it definitely decides if you’re going to move further in your relationship or not! You and partner must communicate really well besides having complimenting personalities for everything to work out so well! That’s so awesome! 😊

  4. I think the thing about most people when they come to live together is they don’t want to share things. I think it is a case of needing to compromise when you move in with someone and also share things.

    1. That’s a very good point. I didn’t really experience that problem, I think it was more of working together to help one another that was more of a problem in the beginning.

    1. Hahaha my man is always eating my snacks and meals 😒 wish I had a fair warning. He’ll also go out and buy whatever I’m craving so it’s a win win. 😂

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