Last year my boyfriend and I moved in together and we thought it was going to be amazing and it has been, but I wish I knew a few things beforehand. Finding an apartment together was tough because we weren’t able to look together in most places since we were in a long distance relationship. That being said our move-in process was delayed a little, however, everything ended up working out and I like how we ended up at our little home.
Someone will ALWAYS feel like they are doing more for the other person and doing more in the relationship overall. I’ve read in articles in the past that’s it’s normal and it comes with being a young people in their twenties. It’s also a big step for the relationship so things change and emotions get stronger. Try and realize what your partner is doing and being more considerate when they do help you out with little gestures and maintaining your home together.
Sacrifices begin to happen more often if they haven’t already. You learn that you won’t always get your way and neither will your partner. You’ll come to terms with doing things for them because seeing that you made them happy makes you happy and vice versa. You’ll also learn that getting what you want all the time isn’t healthy for a relationship, but working together and compromising is.
There will be times where your place is a mess and it’s because you won’t keep up with the chores you both agreed too when you both first moved in. A schedule gets created and things happen, you’re going to college or work and when you get home you just want to relax so you put off your chores another week. Until one day a month or so later you finally deep clean your home and feel better. Don’t stress about it, try to get one or two chores done a day so you don’t start fighting about it. In the end, as long as it gets done, does it really matter who was supposed to do it? As long as you both end up working together to clean your home, it shouldn’t matter. Don’t waste your time on little things, focus on spending time together and being together because the time will FLY by!!!
Paying bills together is great and feels so grown up except when you decide you want to buy stuff and then start worrying about your bills. Don’t stress about money, just always try to stay on your feet by looking for jobs and having at least one job. I know it’s easier said than done, but as long as you’re trying something should come your way. Sometimes it means taking a job you don’t want but need for that specific time period. Just remember it’s okay to take a job you think you shouldn’t have to take and think of how you’re on your own now and YOU ARE PAYING FOR YOUR OWN THINGS. That’s an amazing accomplishment and think of something you like about your job. There’s always one thing you like at your job and it might be better than you think!
Stealing Food is a serious issue and I’m warning you about your significant other right now because they will try to eat your snacks and meals when you aren’t home. Hide your snacks because it’s not a matter of if it’ll happen but when it’ll happen.
The biggest thing you’ll get out of living with your partner is you’ll both grow together. Your bond will grow stronger and you’ll love each other more which you didn’t think was possible. You’ll be growing up together and working together. It’s a great stage to be in when you’re in a relationship because you’ll appreciate all the time you have with one another and see how you’ve each grown as a person and as a couple.
Good luck to you and your significant other!
Which lesson did you like the most?